One of the consequences of trauma is that we tend to do great harm to ourselves—and particularly to our bodies—after the trauma. Today, Andrew talks about the reality of self-contempt and the damage it does to our hearts. We discuss the necessity of honoring our stories with kindness and care, and the importance of engaging our bodies in the process of healing. We also talk about pornography in the context of our stories.

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If you are interested in counseling, email me at Consider a counseling intensive in stunningly beautiful Fort Collins, Colorado! Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. If you want to learn more about the intersection of pornography and your story, check out Andrew’s book called The Psychology of Porn: Essays on Porn, Objectification, and Healing. This episode is about, in part, how we join in shaming portions of our body that have been shamed. And what does it mean to replace that shaming with blessing those very portions of our body that we are ashamed of. I need to honor these stories of mine with kindness and care. One of the consequences of trauma is that we tend to do great harm to ourselves after the trauma. So much of the work of recovery is about growing compassion and kindness for our failures. There is a linkage between our story and the kind of porn we are drawn to. I didn’t even realize the amount of contempt I had for my wounds. Going back and writing out my stories—diving into my story—has begun to create this holy compassion and kindness towards that little boy so that I can finally enter grief. Our bodies hold trauma. Our bodies remember. Our bodies are the key, in many ways, to story. For help with engaging your story in a group setting, consider the Allender Center’s Certificate Program.

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