Jason reflects on why he began engaging his story and what that process looked like for him. Jason began addressing his story as part of a story group… but (surprising twist) his father just happened to be a participant in that group! In today’s episode Jason talks about why his growing up years had such a big influence on his adult life, and what the path toward healing and wholeness has looked like.
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Our group leader told me to sit next to my Dad, turn my chair towards him, and tell him where he’d missed me. And I just remember my body going, “Do not say a word, do not turn your chair.”
I felt more undone after our first nine-week session, than I had ever felt in my life.
There are times when I am very hard on my story, when I am very hard on myself as a little boy, and my wife—knowing my story—will say, “What would kindness look like right now?”
• Realizing the presence of a story through a present day crisis.
• Making the choice to set aside fear and enter the waters of engaging the story.
• An early interchange with an angry father becomes a driving force of a lifetime.
• Parents doing their own internal story work sets the stage for a loving invitation to change the narrative.
• Small group work provides the space to engage the story.
• Moving from a posture of “let’s get this fixed” to accepting the process.
• Becoming undone creates a space for new growth to occur.
• Learning to bear “being seen” helps to show kindness to your younger self.
• Understanding how the past comes to play in the present.
• The old family role of “truth teller” created tension.
For help with engaging your story in a group setting, consider the Allender Center’s Certificate Program.